The Cycle of Domestic Violence/Abuse.

The perpetrator will apologize and promise the hurtful behavior won't happen again, but deep inside, you know it will. You begin to wonder whether you instigated the abuse, yet the emotional or physical pain you know is real. Whenever are you questioning yourself? You might be experiencing domestic abuse right now.

You are caught in a cycle of and asking how did you get here? The feelings of isolation from your family, friends, the loss, that you have nobody to go to right now.

When you are in an abusive relationship, there is always an imbalance of power and control. The abuser might feel inadequate and may have personal issues. they have a tendency to want to dominate the conversation, try, and intimidate you, at home or in public, saying hurtful words. They also believe you are their property and can take sex any time they want it. 

It is easy to identify domestic violence, but not so easy to notice verbal, financial, spiritual, or mental abuse. It is a little harder because there are no physical scars. Whether scars are left or not, it is still abuse. Many abusive relationships are clear from the outset abuse often starts subtly and gets worse over time. You might be experiencing domestic abuse if you're in a relationship with someone who: Calls you names, insults, or puts you down, isolates discourage you from seeing family members or friends, talk about your family or best friend, wants to know you every move, turns up unexpectedly at work, or call at inappropriate times.

Tries to control the family budget, money spending, where you go, your diet, and how you should look. 

Pretends to be jealous, manipulative, possessive, accuses you of being unfaithful, and that you don't love them, and sometimes using your family has bate.

If alcohol or drugs are in use, blaming you for their problem, telling you you drove them to it. This behavior is when it can escalate to violence, which starts with punching doors, or walls, shove, slap, then hitting you with a weapon, which sometimes ends with them choking you. The abuser will shout at the children and also degrading you in front of them.

Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will.
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Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it. Part to to be continued... You do not deserve it!